Well the Ikea stuff arrived. cryx came by to help out and in the end we managed 2 of the shelving units, the sofa-bed, a bedside table and a chest of drawers. That just leaves a desk and 3 more sets of shelves.
Then we had an upsetting conversation where I got told off for being unhappy and accussed of lying lots. I can't help it if I'm unhappy and despite seeing the obviously solution cannot work out how to attain it.